WCAP's Paul Murano in Opposition to gay marriage

>>Valley Patriot>> In Opposition to Gay MarriageWCAP's Paul Murano The question of whether gays should be able to marry leads us to consider the meanings of two words gay and marriage. Gay. The surest way to change minds is to first change the language. Remember when gay only meant happy? Three decades before the redefinition

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In Opposition to Gay Marriage
WCAP's Paul Murano

The question of whether gays should be able to marry leads us to consider the meanings of two words gay and marriage. 

Gay.  The surest way to change minds is to first change the language.  Remember when gay only meant happy?  Three decades before the redefinition of the word marriage came the redefinition of the word gay.  Before then every marriage was a gay marriage, and if it wasn’t happy and gay the couple would work at it.  The word not only changed from meaning happy to homosexual, but it is now used to describe one’s very being, for example: she is tall, he is smart, she is gay.  It has moved from the realm of feeling to the realm of being; an ingenious move for those who support a “gay rights” agenda: How can you discriminate against someone if it is who they are? 

Here are the facts.  Scientifically, there is no such thing as a homosexual.  Human beings along with 99% of the earth’s animal species are heterosexual (a few fish, worms and algae are asexual).  There are two opposite sexes for a specifically designed purpose.  The small percentage of people who may have same-sex attraction disorder (SSAD) are still heterosexual, but afflicted with disordered feelings and attractions.  This distinction between being and feelings, between “I am” language and “I feel” language, is important when referring to the human condition.  Feelings and desires are easily disordered; in fact everyone comes out of the womb imbalanced in their body/mind/spirit equilibrium manifesting itself in one way or another.  Theology explains this as the inheritance of original sin, the secular world as not being fully self-actualized.  As a result affective disorders, perverted desires, obsessions and addictions have always plagued man.  Regardless, all people possess human dignity and should always be treated with care and respect.  Yet, the acting out of such disorientations and disorders contrary to human nature should never be condoned.  Such a false tolerance is irresponsible and uncharitable.

Marriage.  What is it and can it be redefined?   Marriage is not, and never has been, simply a relationship of two people that “love each other”.  Friends are two people that love each other. Family members are two people that love each other.  Marriage is more than that.  It is the coming together of two halves of humanity, resulting in the two b’s: bonding and babies.  This community of love and life called marriage, the foundation of every society, is something two people of the same sex can never achieve.  We need to be clear about this regarding the nature of marriage:  It is not that same-sex marriage is simply immoral, but same-sex marriage is impossible.  Literally.  Two selves becoming one can not occur with persons of the same sex.  Marriage is a word with meaning grounded in objective reality, and the courts attempting to redefine such a reality of human nature is foolish and destructive.  The one-flesh union that sex and marriage creates, the total self-donation of one spouse to the other, makes them literally a part of each other, one flesh.  This love is magnified when nine months later you are able to name it  (in the form of a child).  Two people of the same sex can never become one-flesh and bond in a spousal way, nor give new life as a fruit of their love.  Marriage since the beginning of time has never included persons of the same sex because homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered acts that can never achieve their proper end as unitive (bonding) and procreative (potential babies).

Would it affect your marriage?  This a favorite question of those who support a redefinition.  Immediately it would seem to have very little affect.  But persons marrying their sisters, their Golden Retrievers or their stuffed Teddy Bears wouldn’t immediately have an affect either.  If we don’t hand on to the next generation the meaning of marriage that reflects its true nature, marriage, and in turn society, will continue to gradually weaken. 

We have already watered down much of its meaning in recent decades due to three major fruits of the sexual revolution.  The acceptance of: 1. premarital sex, which weakens marriage by giving away the special unique gift of self spouses are meant to share with each other exclusively, 2. divorce, which makes the permanence of marriage as promised in “for better or worseuntil death do us part” to be farcical, and, 3. contraception, which creates an unconscious barrier between spouses, renders children a burden rather than a blessing, and necessitates masses of illegal immigrants to replace our young population.  And that’s just the beginning.  Corresponding to these three poisons are the three goods of marriage delineated by Augustine in 4th century, but severely attacked since the 1970’s: Faithfulness (weakened by fornication and adultery), Fruitfulness (attacked by contraception and abortion), and Permanence (mocked by divorce and remarriage).  Love, life, and permanence.  Fidelity, fecundity, and indissolubility.  However you word it, without these three essential components marriage becomes a selfish arrangement for selfish ends. 

Chipping away for several decades makes this latest attack almost inevitable, and gives it foundation for a rationale: If you divorce sex from procreation as its natural end, as the contraception mentality has accomplished in the minds of many today, same-sex marriage can then be rationalized.  Until we come out the other end of the sexual revolution with a proper understanding of true nature of human person, love, sexuality and marriage, we will continue to redefine human nature, morality, and law according to disordered desires rather than objective truth.  A sure recipe for unhappiness.


   

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